Self-Love 101: Learning To Let Go



The Lip Bar Brianna Arps Self-Love

Brianna A., The Lip Bar Content Marketing Manager, wears shades "Bombshell" and "Straight Face."

It took umpteen years for me to believe that having naturally full lips is pretty dope. Growing up, the neighborhood kids were was just another sport to them, except unlike basketball, soccer or any other game we used to play, the crap never ended. And I never won.

My self-esteem? Shot. I hated looking in the mirror, felt defeated whenever someone would stare and couldn't for the life of me grasp WHY God had to make me this way.

The Lip Bar Brianna Arps Self-Love

I'll never forget the day I ran home to my mom and asked her why people picked on me. That evening, after being teased yet again, I begged her to take away the pain of being different. I even went to the extreme of asking for lip reduction surgery so that I could finally look — or at least feel — normal. Of course, she told me no...I was just 7 or 8-years-old at the time. But she did continue telling me for years and years that I'm beautiful and that God doesn't make mistakes.  

Fast forward to now, and NO ONE CAN TELL ME A DAMN THING. You hear me?! Besides being the proud owner of over 100+ lippies, I'm known to keep one — especially from The Lip Bar — cocked and ready in my purse as a reminder I'm that chick. No fillers needed. 

The Lip Bar Brianna Arps Self-Love

Like so many others who think the same, I'm a firm believer that self-love is a journey and not a destination. It's not something you wake up and proclaim that you've found; it takes lots of patience and practice — both of which I'm learning in my adulthood. I still have tough times, yes, especially given that social media and society at large constantly pushes the idea of perfection onto folks. But, overall, I'm much happy with the progress I've made. My lips (along with every other thing a stranger has deemed a flaw of mine) are AMAZING. And I'm proud of myself that I've reached a point to let hurtful things go and start living abundantly free in the woman I'm becoming.

I hope that everyone finds it within themselves to do the same.


Such a great message, thanks for sharing. So true that self love is a journey! And it certainly isn’t always easy, but it makes us stronger and better.

Jasmine Fleming

You are gorgeous! I’m so happy you recognize that now. Thanks for sharing your story. And thanks to the Lip Bar also!


This was such a great read! My 11 year old daughter is experiencing being teased from classmates. She has full lips, sandy hair and light complexion. She’s been called an albino ( and I’ve told her they’re beautiful) told she has herpes on her lips that’s why they’re so big and called flat out ugly. At times she’s asked me why she didn’t look like the other kids and I’ve told told her because God makes everyone special the way he sees fit. I’m thankful for a strong support system of family and friends.


Love Love Love this… thank you for sharing your journey. My favorite part is the acknowledgement of others deeming our natural beauty as flaws!
Keep loving on you girlfriend


Keena Danae

Good for you! I was picked on relentlessly about having a big booty. Everyone was flat as a pancake and I had the makeup of a coke bottle. Fast forward, people are paying to have what God blessed me to have naturally!



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